Going to Manchester Pride this year helped me a lot.
I don’t necessarily think that’s a fair representation of all twinks, probably more just the fact that my area is full of assholes. Where I live, there is no bear scene and if you aren’t a 6 foot-tall skinny twink-like guy, you aren’t really ‘part of it’. I feel a lot safer around the bear/cub community and I guess that’s why I would label myself a cub, rather than just being a non-skinny, slightly hairy guy without a label. I spoke to Jamie about his thoughts on the issue of ‘belonging’ to one such ‘tribe’ The idea that you can be hirsute, have a waistline in excess of 32″ and yet be ‘sexy’ represents a significant self-esteem boost for many a non-‘twink’. Many of us will recall a time when flicking through the pages of any gay magazine would leave the mind emblazoned with images of unattainable physical ‘perfection’, the specification of which had evolved over a period of time, seemingly linked to ancient Greek models of youthful male beauty. From Twitter usernames to profiles on gay dating apps, there has been a widespread move towards declaring membership of such a ‘tribe’.Īs a counter-narrative to narrow definitions of gay male ‘beauty’, there is no doubt that this evolution has been immeasurably self-affirming for those gay men that don’t fall within the confines of ‘young, smooth and slim’. Nowhere is this more evident than in the use of tribal identifiers such as ‘bear’, ‘otter’, ‘cub’, ‘twink’, and ‘daddy’ among gay men.
Obviously, accepting a common purpose does not necessitate a rejection of what makes us different. This is exacerbated further by a reluctance on the part of some to engage in an intersectional analysis of the progress made towards LGBTQ+ liberation.
It can be incredibly difficult to keep people under the LGBTQ+ umbrella ‘united’ in the face of wildly divergent concerns, priorities and experiences. The LGBTQ+ community is no different in this regard. Unless there is absolute ‘homogeneity’, a healthy dose of fractiousness and occasional rumblings of disunity are as inevitable as they are desirable. Self-styled communities are, by their very nature, imperfect. Keeping what should be a group of like-minded individuals singing from the same hymn sheet can be challenging. The concept of ‘community’ is complex to say the least. What are the advantages of this and what are the potential pitfalls? Lee Williscroft-Ferris discusses.
A compelling and rich narrative, FatGay Men provides a rare glimpse into an unexplored dimension of weight andbody image in American culture.Gay men have become increasingly tribal, choosing to place themselves into a box that binds them with kindred spirits.
This book documents performances at club events and examines howparticipants use allusion and campy-queer behavior to reconfigure and reclaimtheir sullied body images, focusing on the numerous tensions of marginalizationand dignity that big gay men experience and how they negotiate these tensionsvia their membership to a size-positive group.īased on ethnographic interviewsand in-depth field notes from more than 100 events at bar nights, cafeklatches, restaurants, potlucks, holiday bashes, pool parties, movie nights,and weekend retreats, the book explores the woundedness that comes from beingrelegated to an inferior position in gay hierarchies, and yet celebrates howsome gay men can reposition the shame of fat stigma through carnival, camp, andplay. Both a partial insider as a gay man and anoutsider to Girth & Mirth, Whitesel offers an insider's critique of the gaymovement, questioning whether the social consequences of the failure to beheight-weight proportionate should be so extreme in the gay community. In existence for over fortyyears, the club has long been a refuge and 'safe space' for such men. In Fat Gay Men, JasonWhitesel delves into the world of Girth & Mirth, a nationally known socialclub dedicated to big gay men, illuminating the ways in which these men formidentities and community in the face of adversity. Despite affectionate in-group monikers for big gay men-chubs,bears, cubs-the anti-fat stigma that persists in American culture at largestill haunts these individuals who often exist at the margins of gaycommunities. To be fat in a thin-obsessed gay culturecan be difficult.